Five ways to make your best man speech stand out from the crowd 

Here are some example of creative thinking about how their best man speech stood out from the crowd – WARNING! These are audacious.
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Oliver Lucas

Published 13 Sep 2023

Groomsmen all in matching suits and sunglasses


1) Sing

If you’re game enough, talented enough and game enough, composing and singing a song is a sure fire way to generate a knock-out blow of a best man speech. Taking a well-known melody and retro fitting lyrics that tick all the boxes of jokes, thanks and sentiment is a proven formula for success.

If you’re feeling really adventurous and want to reach for the stars then you can even have visuals that move in time to the music. This kind of multi-sensory experience is usually the reserve of multi-platinum selling artists so make no mistake this is an ambitious undertaking and will require hours and hours of preparation if you want to nail it on the day.

You’ll see a number of good examples on YouTube but the pic of the bunch is undoubtedly Tom Fletcher’s wedding speech which has racked up an incredible 15 million views and counting. Taking nothing away from Tom’s endevours, for those who are unfamiliar with his work, he was in a band called McFly and as such has the advantage of being a singer song writer in the first instance. He most likely will have called in a few favours from his production pals to orchestrate the very polished visuals.

Probably a more realistic benchmark to aim for the average punter is the clip below which is executed wonderfully by an as yet unnamed gent who clearly has a talent for song writing and humour. Take it away good sir…

2) Pull off the surprise to end all surprises

Of all the recommendations as to how to make your best man speech original this one will pay the biggest reward but make no mistake it’s also the toughest by a long shot. This is about delivering something on the day that you would otherwise think is out of reach. Impossible even. Think big, and then think even bigger because that what this path involves should you decide to go down it.

At this point, allow me to point you in the direction of an example to illustrate the point. Louise XXX was a huge fan of singing sensation and newly crowned UK national treasure Gary Barlow her whole life. She’d bought all the albums, been to his gigs and bought more than her fair share of t-shirts. Imagine her reaction then when after more than a year of campaigning by her maid of honour on Twitter, the man himself actually shows up at her wedding! It’s rare but it can happen. Get your thinking cap on about what the groom REALLY wants and draw up an action plan to get just that.

3) Do an audacious stunt

For the most part this requires some full on film production and story telling that doesn’t just supplement the speech it IS the speech. One way to set this up is that the written speech has been left behind somewhere, rousing gasps from the audience and exchanged looks of horror. In reality it’s a bridge to leave the room and switch on a TV or projector to showcase your film making talents.

This is where the opportunity comes to step outside the confines of the reception room in to a land of make believe where anything is possible. Of course the reality of what’s possible will be limited to your imagination, but more practically time & budget.

Below are two examples of this in action, the first an example of a well thought through comedic script, the second a high production value piece of action footage that has a professional gloss, and most likely an associated price tag.

4) Interact with the audience

TV shows play on live voting all the time so why not a best mans speech? When done well this can really get the audience engaged and offer up unusual ways to get some laughs without incriminating the groom.

The biggest opportunities present themselves around the centre piece which typically involves embarrassing stories about the groom. In this section the audience are asked to guess the outcome of a story, or an unknown fact about the betrothed. Where the opportunity for comedy comes in, is around the alternative options which can be completely out there. In a sense it’s like Mr. & Mrs but on a grander scale.

Voting can be as simple as holding up colour coded cards much like the TV show Ready, Steady Cook or if you’re feeling flush you can get Who Wants to be a Millionaire style voting pads.

5) Do a live performance

This one will require co-operation and willing from other members of the wedding party. At a given signal within the speech known only to those participating, there is an impromptu but choreographed performance. Typically this has tended to be the reserve of the evening entertainment and consistently goes down a storm. With the right planning this can weaved in to the speech itself. If you want to get really creative, turn the whole damn thing in to a musical. Want to see how well it goes down when done well? Check this out…